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    From the Archives

    From the Archives: Who Do You Want Raising Your Grandkids?

    January 16, 2023 /

    One morning as I ate the breakfast of eggs my dad had just made for me, I watched him go about his work in the kitchen. He was cleaning up the dishes from the kids and then he wiped Tommy’s mouth with the blue sponge from the sink. I thought about how readily he’d moved in with us after Shawn’s death. For a long time, I’d just accepted the decision as a normal one. But I also knew it couldn’t have been an easy one to make. At that point, he’d been living with us for almost a year. I watched him take a long swipe of the counter with…

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    April 8, 2019
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    I’m a Widow. You’d Think I’d Be Better at Doing Hard Things. I’m Not.

    August 4, 2022
    Book for blog by DC widow writer Marjorie Brimley Hale

    From the Archives: My Mom’s Diary (Part 1 of 2)

    November 28, 2022
  • From the Archives

    From the Archives: Baths and Bedtime with Grandpa Tom

    January 12, 2023 /

    We never really talked about how long my dad was going to stay, but weeks turned into months, and there he continued to be. After dinner in the evenings, we cleaned up and then we all went upstairs to get ready for bed. It had always been my routine with the kids and my dad joined me without comment immediately after Shawn died and we were home together. Most nights, my dad bathed Tommy and I supervised showers with the older kids. “Only three toys,” I heard him say one night. I came in to find Tommy deciding which bath toys he was going to bring in the tub, picking…

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    Tell Me About Him

    June 19, 2020
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    It’s Not Up To You

    July 22, 2020
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    Ask a Widow: Yes, It’s Okay to Want to Have Sex Again (Part 2)

    January 21, 2022
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    Holidays

    He is Still Here with Me, with Us

    January 9, 2023 /

    How has it been 5 years? It’s what I keep thinking lately. For some reason, this anniversary of Shawn’s death feels different. More significant, maybe, but also just strangely unsettling. You see, the first anniversary was one of deep grief, one that was overpowered by any other emotion. But as the anniversaries continued, I found that I could more easily face them, and sometimes even find meaning in them. My anxiety was – and is – still significant around January 9th. But I’ve learned to cope with it. I’ve learned to focus on my children and lean on Chris. And yet, I keep asking the same question: How has it…

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    Do This, Because You Are Her Friend

    August 30, 2019

    A New Look for DC Widow

    August 23, 2021
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    CNAS Tribute to Shawn (Part 2)

    October 30, 2018
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    From the Archives

    From the Archives: Three-and-a-Half

    January 5, 2023 /

    I was three-and-a-half when I knew something was different. I sat on the front porch, waiting for a car to pull up, wondering how long it would be until I got to the house where my grandparents lived. I crossed my legs at the ankles, trying not to wrinkle the dress I was wearing for that special occasion. It was pink and it was soft, the kind I liked, the kind that didn’t bunch up too much when I had to sit for long periods of time, and my dark brown hair was down, though my natural curl made it stick out in all directions. My baby sister Lindsay was…

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    Goodbye, 2021… (Part 1 of 2)

    December 31, 2021
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    Nun or Assassin? Your Guide to Widow Fashion!

    October 28, 2021
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    I Can’t Do This Anymore

    April 13, 2020
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    Holidays

    …Hello, 2023 (Part 2 of 2)

    January 2, 2023 /

    Hello, 2023. Hello to a new language and a new culture and a new understanding of the world for my kids. Hello to nights that end after midnight. Honestly, down here in Colombia, hello to nights that really get started after midnight. Hello 44. It’s going to be a big birthday this year – 5 years since I started the blog – and I want to make sure to celebrate to the max. Hello to knowing that joy exists, even in those times when I can’t see it. Hello to good coffee from the old lady on the corner, to bunelos after Sunday morning runs and to the sound of…

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    July 6, 2018
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    May 11, 2018
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    Ask a Widow: How Do I Start to Date Again?

    January 31, 2020
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    Adios, 2022… (Part 1 of 2)

    December 29, 2022 /

    Adios, 2022. Adios to planning and making sure everything is perfect before I do something daring. Life is too short to avoid risk. Adios worrying about what kind of a widow I should be. I am remarried, I am a mother, I am happy. I am also a widow. Adios old cars and old car registrations, and adios to the DMV. Okay, not really, because I know I’ll be back at the DMV many more times, but adios to dealing with death-related things at the DMV. Adios fear that Chris will die. He will, someday. But not yet. Not yet. Adios, trying to please everyone. It never worked in the…

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    July 3, 2020
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    Ask a Widow: What Changes Do Remarriage and Adoption Bring?

    July 18, 2022
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I’m Marjorie Brimley, mother of three and high-school teacher in Washington, D.C., and this is the blog I never thought I’d have to write.

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Archives

  • ► 2023 (17)
    • ► February (8)
      • Last Post: There's No Handbook For How to Do This
      • Letter to Shawn (Part 2)
      • From the Archives: On the Phone with My Dad
      • From the Archives: Aren't We Lucky?
      • From the Archives: Falling for Chris
      • From the Archives: Playing on the Roof
      • From the Archives: Claire Doesn't Want the Goldfish Crackers
      • From the Archives: To Me, She Glowed From Within
    • ► January (9)
      • Ask a Widow: Photos in the Bedroom
      • From the Archives: Dating...It's Just Like Improv!
      • Rule of Life
      • From the Archives: A First (Platonic) Night With Chris
      • From the Archives: Who Do You Want Raising Your Grandkids?
      • From the Archives: Baths and Bedtime with Grandpa Tom
      • He is Still Here with Me, with Us
      • From the Archives: Three-and-a-Half
      • ...Hello, 2023 (Part 2 of 2)
  • ► 2022 (93)
    • ► December (9)
      • Adios, 2022... (Part 1 of 2)
      • From the Archives: Maybe She Will Be the One to Save Me
      • From the Archives: We Weren't a Broken Family
      • Hypochondriac
      • From the Archives: Dating and the Cabal
      • Moments of Pause
      • From the Archives: You Are Making Meaning Already
      • Any Day You Can Die
      • From the Archives: My Mom's Diary (Part 2 of 2)
    • ► November (8)
      • From the Archives: My Mom's Diary (Part 1 of 2)
      • Thanks on Thanksgiving
      • From the Archives: It’s Hard for People Who Don’t Know the Whole Story
      • From the Archives: Look Good in the ER
      • Ask a Widow: Dating With Kids
      • From the Archives: A Walk With My Dad
      • What Would He Be Like?
      • From the Archives: The Mindfulness and Grief Therapy Session
    • ► October (9)
      • Homesick
      • From the Archives: You're Doing the Hard Stuff
      • What If It's Better?
      • From the Archives: I Just Remembered That It's All Real
      • From the Archives: Kelly and Paige
      • Just Like You
      • His Smile
      • From the Archives: The Funeral Home
      • First Anniversary (600th blog post)
    • ► September (7)
      • From the Archives: Your Dad Died Last Night
      • Let's Make Light As a Family
      • From the Archives: That’s What We Have Right Now. Hope.
      • Parent 2 (Part 2)
      • From the Archives: Marjorie, What If I'm Dying?
      • Pico y Placa
      • The Power of Yet
    • ► August (2)
      • I'm a Widow. You'd Think I'd Be Better at Doing Hard Things. I'm Not.
      • Happy Birthday, Grandpa Tom
    • ► July (8)
      • Widowhood is Stressful. This Survey Proves It.
      • Along the Coastline
      • Ask a Widow: No One Is Ready
      • Ask a Widow: What Changes Do Remarriage and Adoption Bring?
      • Ask a Widow: When Sex Can Be Good...and When Sex Can Be Tricky
      • A Countdown Calendar for Grief?
      • That's What You Look For
      • How We Remember
    • ► June (8)
      • The Sewing Room
      • Shawn's Birthday, Year 5
      • They Were Happy Years for You
      • First Father's Day
      • Widows in Quarantine
      • Making Jam with Grandpa Tom
      • Hypotheticals
      • "I'm Dating a Widow..."
    • ► May (9)
      • Why I Write
      • It Is a Lie
      • "I'm Alone But I Ain't Lonely"
      • Things That Remain: Risk (Part 4 of 4)
      • Things That Remain: Accomplishment (Part 3 of 4)
      • We Will Not Look Away From You
      • Mother's Day, Year 5
      • When Auto-Fill Won't Cut It
      • You Carry the Passports
    • ► April (8)
      • Things That Remain: Fear (Part 2 of 4)
      • Things That Remain: Guilt (Part 1 of 4)
      • I Don’t Want Anyone to Know, But I Also Want Them to Be Happy for Me
      • Kids of His Own
      • Widow Time: Chronos and Kairos
      • What If My Grief Is Over?
      • What If?
      • They Remain for Me, Too
    • ► March (9)
      • Today, You Get the Ring
      • Acts of God?
      • The Disorder of Prolonged Grief - Does It Make Sense?
      • Benefits and Responsibilities
      • When He Is Theirs, and They Are His
      • Where I Want to Be
      • Three Kids, Two Dads
      • Things to do on a Deathiversary
      • National Colorectal Cancer Awareness Month
    • ► February (7)
      • 43
      • To All That Is to Be: Yes
      • She's His Daughter
      • You Are Us
      • Dreams of Shawn
      • What If He Dies? (Part 2)
      • "It's a Journey"
    • ► January (9)
      • What If He Dies?
      • Dog Poop at the Grocery Store: A Widow Metaphor
      • The Man at the Bank
      • Ask a Widow: Yes, It’s Okay to Want to Have Sex Again (Part 2)
      • Reasonable Positivity
      • Do You Have Any Memories of Your Dad Shawn?
      • My Body Still Knows
      • A Car for Our Future
      • Hello, 2022... (Part 2 of 2)
  • ► 2021 (97)
    • ► December (6)
      • Goodbye, 2021... (Part 1 of 2)
      • See It to Believe It
      • Grief, Not Sadness
      • Ask a Widow: Why Does It Feel Like Cheating If He's Dead?
      • Other People's Joy
      • People You May Know
    • ► November (9)
      • Ask a Widow: "But We've Always Had Christmas at Grandma's" (with holiday resources)
      • Old Places, New Meanings
      • The Top 5 Reasons Thanksgiving Can Really Blow for Widows
      • Bring Meatballs
      • Feeling Bad That It Doesn't Feel Bad
      • I Am Happy, Like You Wanted
      • Totes in the Garage
      • No Thanks
      • Bride of Frankenstein
    • ► October (4)
      • Nun or Assassin? Your Guide to Widow Fashion!
      • No One's Looking at You
      • Claire's Wedding Speech
      • Share Joy
    • ► September (8)
      • 'Till Death Do Us Part
      • Witness Something Special
      • Ask a Widow: How Do Your Kids Think About Their (Dead) Dad When They Have a (New, Alive) Dad?
      • Warning: Bad Things Happen to Me
      • Ask a Widow: What to Say to a New Widow
      • Nana and Pop
      • What Does it Mean to Be a Dad?
      • If My Wedding is Cancelled, Then I Can Make Jury Duty
    • ► August (5)
      • The First Day of School, Part 2
      • Why? (On the Anniversary of My Mom's Death)
      • A New Look for DC Widow
      • Resources from DC Widow
      • Someday, I'll Watch Him Die (500th Blog Post)
    • ► July (8)
      • You Can Just Be Happy
      • Sh*t People Said That Just Wasn’t True*
      • Terry Gets a Tattoo
      • You'll Survive
      • The Clark Family, Part 2
      • Successes (Part 2 of 2)
      • Failures (Part 1 of 2)
      • What Happens to My Body When I Die?
    • ► June (8)
      • Shawn's Birthday, Year 4
      • International Widows Day
      • What Are You? (Father's Day, 2021)
      • A Hug, Finally
      • I Know You're Ready When You Tell Me You're Ready
      • To Update the Account, Part 2
      • Ask a Widow: What About the In-Laws?
      • The Glamorous Cabal of Widows
    • ► May (9)
      • To Read on Memorial Day
      • A New Life Insurance Plan! (An Annotated Reading of the Latest Letter to Our House)
      • A Happy Ending
      • The Anxiety is Real
      • The Pieces We Don't Know
      • A Review of “A Widow’s Guide to Healing” (Part 2)
      • Mother's Day, Year 4
      • Ask a Widow: Am I Moving Forward if I'm Still Angry?
      • Just Like Your Dad
    • ► April (9)
      • Springtime, Finally
      • Just Keep Doing It
      • Time Travel
      • The View From Across the Street
      • Single Parenting, Not Solo Parenting
      • A Conversation
      • We Are Everywhere
      • Easter Joy
      • Visitors to Your Grave
    • ► March (9)
      • Life is Unfair. But It Can Be Beautiful, Too.
      • It's Not Too Late to Say "Thank You"
      • It's Not Too Late to Say "I'm Sorry"
      • On Details and Memory
      • FaceTime with my Family
      • Weddings and Other Complicated Endeavors
      • Opinions on Kinetic Sand
      • Ask a Widow: Is This a Good Idea?
      • Guess Random Numbers
    • ► February (11)
      • 42
      • Seven Kisses
      • Ask a Widow: How Long Does It Take To Feel Better?
      • Ask a Widow: Why is Sex So Complicated?
      • Ask a Widow: Therapy and Grief
      • How We Met (A Valentine's Day Story)
      • Widowhood and Breakups
      • Widowhood, Dating and a Global Pandemic
      • Why Heat the House When I Can Wear a Hat?
      • I Am From
      • Guilt (Part 2)
    • ► January (11)
      • So Then Who Are You?
      • Death by Pork Butt
      • Holiday Cards (Part 2)
      • Accompany Me
      • The President We Need
      • Must Read This Week: Jamie Raskin
      • The Vaccine
      • Three Years
      • 2020 Vision Revisited
      • Now You Just Write Random Things
      • ...Hello, 2021 (Part 2 of 2)
  • ► 2020 (152)
    • ► December (10)
      • 2020, It's Time to Go... (Part 1 of 2)
      • Kitchen Counter
      • Gingee
      • Promises
      • The Tree Sale
      • The Spot on the Bathroom Floor
      • Holiday Cards
      • He Makes the Coffee
      • Cold Pizza in the Back of the Mazda
      • Water and Fire
    • ► November (11)
      • Fierce Loyalty
      • Two Widows at the Orthodontist
      • Do You Know What's Hard?
      • It's Not All About the Last Day
      • Silence
      • Risk
      • The Exploding Whale
      • The Best Condolence Letter
      • His Kindness Will Echo
      • DC Widow Is Taking Today Off
      • Election Day 2020
    • ► October (13)
      • I'm Not a "Bike Widow"
      • Happy Birthday to My Mom
      • Letter to Shawn
      • Ask a Widow: Legacy (Part 2)
      • Ask a Widow: Legacy (Part 1)
      • The Price of Corn
      • Happy Birthday, Chris
      • That’s a Special Feeling
      • Make a Prediction (Part 2)
      • Four Years Ago
      • Want Less Judgmental Friends? Find Some Widows!
      • Make a Prediction
      • Hi, I'm Chris
    • ► September (13)
      • A Life That Sparkles (400th Blog Post)
      • The Danger of the Fast-Forward Button
      • I'm Not a Polygamist*
      • They Were So Little
      • Tell Me How To Do It (Tribute to Ruth Bader Ginsburg)
      • State of Exception
      • Room 9
      • Teachers, We Hear You
      • Relationship to Student
      • Austin's Hero
      • I Just Want to Know
      • The Room at the Hospital
      • Must Read This Week: Jesmyn Ward
    • ► August (13)
      • Family Resemblance
      • How Am I Actually Going to Do This?
      • Queen Anne's Lace
      • Ask a Widow: Could My Date Be a Father to My Kids?
      • What is Family?
      • What Kind of Beer Do I Like?
      • Cowboy Take Me Away
      • Letter to Myself: 1 Year (Part 3 of 3)
      • Letter to Myself: 6 Months (part 2 of 3)
      • Letter to Myself: 1 Month (part 1 of 3)
      • Why Widows Always Think About Death
      • Sometimes Bad Things Don't Happen
      • And Then I Am Crying
    • ► July (12)
      • Highs and Lows
      • Deserving It
      • You Can Do This. You Are Doing This.
      • Ask a Widow: How Do I Meet Other Young Widows?
      • It's Not Up To You
      • You're Not Really a Widow Anymore
      • The Earring
      • School and Single Parenting
      • What Does It Take to Date a Widow?
      • Safety
      • My Love Language
      • Who Would You Love More?
    • ► June (13)
      • Shawn's Birthday, Year 3
      • Ask a Widow: Dating is Hard When You Try to Predict the Future
      • How to Host a Crappy Zoom Call
      • Father's Day, Year 3
      • Tell Me About Him
      • You're Not Crazy. You're Grieving.
      • Put Your Dishes in the Dishwasher
      • "Making It"
      • I Miss My Dad
      • Congrats, Graduates of 2020
      • Three Grief Specialists to Follow Right Now
      • Two Widow Books You Should Read Right Now
      • My White Privilege
    • ► May (13)
      • Second, As In Again
      • 5th Grade Graduation
      • 3 am
      • How Does This Actually Work?
      • Ghosts in the Backyard
      • The 5 Friends a Widow Needs
      • How Widowed Parenting Prepared Me for Coronavirus Parenting
      • In My Driveway
      • Mother's Day, Year 3
      • Grandpa Tom's Jam
      • Teacher Appreciation
      • Hard Things Are Hard
      • My Nine-Year-Old Boy
    • ► April (13)
      • The Boy on the Bike
      • Being Alone is Scary
      • How (Not) to Date a Widow
      • Which Box Do I Check?
      • I'll Be Paying People Back for Carpool When I'm 80
      • The Bookshelf
      • Just in Case
      • I Can't Do This Anymore
      • I Wanna Dance With Somebody
      • Can I Take Out the Trash?
      • A Genuine Offer, Freely Given, With Gladness
      • Breaking Point
      • Ask a Widow: What If He's Not Shawn?
    • ► March (15)
      • Eleven
      • It's Not Something You Can Catch
      • Sore Throat
      • This Is Not a Referendum
      • Front Lines
      • Be Still. Listen.
      • Alone
      • Our Safe Space
      • 99%
      • My Babies Are Here With Me
      • Sometimes We Make Hard Choices When We Love Someone
      • An Imperfect Parent
      • Ask a Widow: What's So Hard With Online Dating?
      • I'm Still Alive!
      • Disaster Prep and the Coronavirus
    • ► February (12)
      • I Guess This Is What Healing Looks Like
      • The Happiest Place on Earth
      • 41
      • Out of the Corner of My Eye
      • Homework with Austin
      • Learning to Like Food...Again?
      • Valentine's Day, Year 3
      • Not Such a Guppy Anymore
      • Marjorie's Favorite Blog Posts (there are 300 now!)
      • My Name is Marjorie...
      • Table for Seven
      • That Super Bowl Google Ad
    • ► January (14)
      • Ask a Widow: How Do I Start to Date Again?
      • Emergency Contact
      • Musings on Heaven at Dinner
      • What About the Privilege?
      • Dear Insurance Company
      • Tough Love
      • 2020 Vision
      • Sometimes You Superglue It
      • Year of Yes Revisited
      • Remembering Shawn and The Tragically Hip
      • 2 Years Ago You Told Me This
      • Go on Vacation
      • Hey Married Lady! Here's What You Can Do To Support Your Single Friend
      • ...Hello 2020 (Part 2 of 2)
  • ► 2019 (153)
    • ► December (13)
      • Goodbye, 2019... (Part 1 of 2)
      • Washing Dishes
      • Christmas Magic
      • Hallmark Christmas Movies
      • Ask a Widow: Navigating Friendships
      • You Are Alone. Accept That. Carry On. (Part 2)
      • Tommy's Christmas List
      • Excerpt from Marjorie's Speech, "Remembering Those We Love"
      • What Brought You to The Hospital Today?
      • Mysterious
      • I Keep Running
      • Speed Dating
      • The Warmth of Home
    • ► November (12)
      • My Body Knew
      • Ask a Widow: What to Do When You're a Widow and a Parent
      • My Widow Friend Abena
      • All Shawn Ever Wanted for Me
      • Just Marjorie and the Hash Run
      • Guilt
      • Ask a Widow: Yes, It's Okay to Want to Have Sex Again
      • Kindness
      • In a Hurry
      • Ask a Widow
      • Old and Young, At the Same Time
      • Trigger Warning
    • ► October (13)
      • The Avengers
      • Talking Football at the Kitchen Island
      • Grant Showed Us the Way
      • My Cross to Bear
      • In An Instant
      • And the Air Will Buzz Again
      • In the Middle
      • "If I Die, Please Get Remarried"
      • What's the Worst Thing That Can Happen?
      • October 10th
      • Marjorie's Favorite Grief Books
      • At First Glance
      • Grandpa Tom's Exercise Routine
    • ► September (13)
      • Zombies, Run
      • Lemonade
      • I Followed the Rules
      • When 5-Year-Olds Talk About Death
      • Costco, the Cemetery, and My Dad
      • I'm Not Getting a Dog
      • Ministry of Presence
      • So Close. And Yet So Far Away.
      • September 11, 2001
      • Grandpa Tom Returns
      • Do It When It Doesn't Make You Want To Throw Up
      • Home Base
      • From Standing to Dancing
    • ► August (13)
      • Do This, Because You Are Her Friend
      • Another Year Without My Mom
      • What My Kids Need At School This Year
      • The Man at the Gas Station
      • Flatwood Willie
      • Pistachio Nuts, Epipens and Friends
      • The Bear
      • Grilling
      • Kids That Could Be My Own
      • Can't You Just...?
      • "My Dad Died in the War"
      • Nights at the Kitchen Counter
      • Wisps of a Dream
    • ► July (14)
      • I Am Someone New, Too
      • What Austin Brought to Camp
      • Questions
      • Our Bathroom
      • What I'm Scared Of
      • Heavenly Love
      • Where’s Your Husband?
      • "Are You Going To Die?”
      • The Look of Real Love
      • The View in Portofino
      • Lost
      • Swimming in the Mediterranean Sea
      • Our 15th Wedding Anniversary
      • Shawn's Birthday, Year 2
    • ► June (12)
      • Sundance or Sunscreen?
      • Happiness Is For Other People
      • Team Brimley
      • Brave or Stupid
      • My 200th Blog Post
      • Father's Day, Year 2
      • The Last Day of School
      • Not a Shitty Husband
      • Marjorie's Graduation Speech
      • Soulmates and Other Things I Don't Believe In
      • Sick Day
      • The Day the Car Didn't Start
    • ► May (14)
      • Waiting for the Future
      • The Girl at the Coffee Shop
      • How Did You Cope?
      • The Oklahoma Clarks
      • Unaffected
      • Asparagus Cures Cancer
      • Tommy's Bike Ride
      • "It Hurt for Me"
      • Mother's Day, Year 2
      • One of the Most Important Things a School Can Do
      • The Worst Book I've Read in a Long Time
      • Zoe Keating's Concert
      • How My Son Found Family Across the Alley
      • The Talent Show
    • ► April (13)
      • The Little Things
      • The Clark Family
      • Heroic Work
      • Reflections at Your Grave on Easter Weekend
      • What (Not) to Say in Crisis
      • Sometimes There's a Little Vomit
      • The Closet
      • Rainbow Chicken
      • First Rental Car
      • New York, New York
      • Happy Now
      • Walk to the End of the Driveway
      • Colon Cancer Run
    • ► March (13)
      • "It's Okay, You Can Do It!"
      • Angry
      • You Are Alone. Accept That. Carry On.
      • Freak-Out Letter #6
      • He Pushed the Button
      • 24 Hours
      • It Might Not Happen For Me
      • Fleetwood Mac
      • Backsliding Into Grief
      • Running to the Door
      • Claire's New Email Address
      • I Am Doing Today
      • The Fans in the Stands
    • ► February (11)
      • Who Has a Better Life Than Us?
      • 40
      • Tommy's Birthday
      • Our Trip to the Waterpark
      • The Ensemble
      • Valentines Day
      • After a Year
      • Last Night
      • The Ring
      • Thestrals
      • Lullaby
    • ► January (12)
      • Careful
      • The Letter
      • Young Love
      • The Spelling Bee
      • Family
      • Across the Doctor's Office
      • Year of Yes
      • "I Want Daddy to Come Back"
      • When He Was Still Mine
      • In the Movie Version of My Life
      • "I Think He's Dying"
      • ….Hello 2019 (Part 2 of 2)
  • ► 2018 (129)
    • ► December (13)
      • Good Riddance 2018…. (Part 1 of 2)
      • Home
      • Sweet Potato Fries
      • Christmas Eve
      • Just Because Your Husband Dies, You Don't Necessarily Get the Job
      • Salsa in my Cup
      • Decorating for Christmas
      • Santa Shawn
      • Lockdown
      • Shawn's Cancer Humor
      • Zombie Apocalypse
      • Strong
      • Stories for My Daughter
    • ► November (12)
      • One Year Later
      • Joy!
      • Watching “Widows”
      • Thanksgiving
      • More
      • Report Cards
      • Bill Brimley's Speech at CNAS in Honor of His Son, Shawn
      • Smash the Patriarchy
      • Field Trips, Open Houses and Other Events I Can't Attend Anymore
      • Shawn's Wife
      • What Would Shawn Do? (Election Day 2018)
      • Why I Might Have to Stop Reading "Mommy Blogs"
    • ► October (13)
      • Dad Is Not a Zombie
      • CNAS Tribute to Shawn (Part 2)
      • Guns and Cancer
      • Life advice from the aesthetician
      • It's Easy to Judge (100th Blog Post)
      • "Holistic Medicine" and Other Words I Never Used to Like
      • Austin and the Kittens
      • "Go To the Hospital"
      • Not My Domain
      • The Joshua Tree
      • Sorry For Your Loss: A Review
      • A Brutal Few Weeks
      • The Feminist in Our House
    • ► September (11)
      • My Garden
      • I Might As Well Get Cheaper Tires If My Husband Has to Be Dead
      • EMDR
      • Claire's Hero
      • Falling Trees
      • Reckless
      • Parent 2
      • We All Hurt
      • No Ma'am
      • The First Day of School, Part 2
      • Remembering Shawn as He Really Was
    • ► August (14)
      • Michele Flournoy's Eulogy of Shawn
      • Family photos
      • 20 Years
      • Talking to My Kids About Death, Again
      • Promises I Can’t Keep
      • The First Day of School
      • I Want to Die Right Now Because at Least Then I Wouldn’t Have to Carry Anyone Home After They Throw Up from Eating Too Much Ice Cream
      • Running With Anger
      • The Marine
      • A Beautiful Day
      • That Poor Girl
      • The Power of the Word "Widow"
      • Dear Girl on the Phone from UCLA
      • Weekend Shawn
    • ► July (13)
      • The Treadmill
      • Who's Saving Our Basement? (Part 2)
      • Reading with Claire
      • Why Being a Widowed Single Mom is So Hard
      • Single
      • Nana
      • The Scar
      • A Review of "A Widow's Guide to Healing"
      • Run Away
      • 6 Months
      • Go, Go, Go
      • An Anniversary of Sorts
      • What If the Plane Crashes?
    • ► June (13)
      • Shawn's Birthday, Part 2
      • Shawn's Birthday
      • 5 Stars
      • CNAS Tribute to Shawn
      • Brussels Sprouts
      • Father's Day
      • You're Not Bothering Me
      • It's Just Me
      • So Proud
      • Do You Know What Makes Me Nervous?
      • Grandpa Tom
      • 90s Party
      • An Uncomfortable Reality
    • ► May (12)
      • Full Time
      • Where Should We Begin?
      • Brave Through It
      • Peace Be With You
      • Pooping on the Potty
      • Why Do All the Damn Parents Die in Disney movies?
      • Mother's Day
      • Who Am I?
      • I Turned Out Okay
      • Our Forever House
      • I'm Not Sure How You Survive That
      • Riding Bikes
    • ► April (13)
      • My Flawed Husband
      • To Update the Account
      • I'm Not Grateful
      • Frozen
      • It Doesn't Matter
      • The Last Perfect Weekend
      • Keep Walking Past That Door
      • Press Fast-Forward
      • "You look hot, by the way"
      • My First Sleepover Birthday Party
      • It Can Always Get Worse
      • There's No Crying at the Swim-Up Bar
      • One King Bed
    • ► March (12)
      • Straight to Heaven
      • I Knew You Before
      • Why I Can't Call You Back
      • All Kinds of Therapy
      • First Day Back
      • It's Not "Better"
      • The Guitar Lesson Guy
      • Who's Saving Our Basement?
      • The Little Hand on My Back
      • There's Only One Option, and This Is It
      • My Eulogy of Shawn
      • “I’m at Trader Joe's, What Do You Need?”
    • ► February (3)
      • Costco and the Cemetery
      • Chuck E. Cheese and Jury Duty
      • My 39th Birthday...
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